By Amy Joles
(Contact / Staff Bio)
May 16, 2009 - 02:30 p.m. EST
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Melvin Garza
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“Murder in the Thumb” details the death of a Caro teen in 1976, the discovery of her body years later and the happenings since.
CARO — The characters are real. The events are real. And it started right here in Tuscola County.
Dick Carson, former editor of the Huron Daily Tribune, released his investigative book, “Murder in the Thumb,” Friday. He admits that sources in the book - including residents of the Thumb area - may “not be too happy,” with the finished product.
“But it’s accurate,” he said.
The book details the murder of 17-year-old Robin Adams in 1976. It also chronicles some of the “spooky” happenings that have taken place since the murder.
“It’s like a Stephen King novel,” he said. “I realized I’m not the writer, I’ve become one of the characters.”
Black magic, psychics, even a Ouija board are spun into this dark tale.
“All I can say is that these things happened to these people and as a reporter, you have to sit back and see if they are connected,” he said.
Adams’ murder went unsolved for eight years - her body decomposing slowly on nearby state land, near Bliss Road.
The body wasn’t located until 1984 when a tip resulted in the arrest of a brother and sister, Melvin and Melba “Nora” Garza of Caro.
Melvin Garza was eventually convicted of the murder and sentenced to life in prison. He is currently serving his sentence in Lapeer at the Thumb Correctional Facility.
Garza’s younger sister, Nora, was arrested and jailed as a suspect in the murder. She later testified in a secret grand jury that her brother had murdered Adams and she had assisted in the disposal of the body.
“While she was being held in jail, police pressured Nora to lead them to the victim’s body, which was buried in a remote, wooded area near Caro,” Carson wrote in the book.
However, police violated Nora’s rights since she had already been granted transactional immunity.
“Transactional immunity is all-inclusive,” said Carson. “Melvin Garza might still be at large today if his sister’s lawyers had recognized the force of the immunity she was granted.”
Nora Garza pleaded no contest to being an accessory to the murder in exchange for dismissal of the murder charges against her.
“Some people say she did it,” said Carson. “There was a radio deejay at WKYO (Caro’s station) that once dated Nora and said that she told him, ‘Do you know about Robin Adams? Well, I killed her and I’ll kill you.’”
Garza has since married and moved out of the area, Carson said. However, many members of the Garza family still reside in or have ties to Caro.
Starting in the 1990s, Carson interviewed more than 200 sources for the book, traveling to several states. He says his interest in the murder has continued due to several happenings since.
“After the trial, tragedy struck six families with ties to the case. Was some dark force extracting vengeance for the shame brought on the killer’s family?” states the book’s subhead on the front cover.
“With a superficial look, this may sound like old news and people may think, ‘Carson, what are you doing digging into this?’” said the 70-year-old author, who now resides in Ohio. “But there are too many people dying here... it’s too weird.”
Several sources interviewed by Carson died suddenly or had significant deaths in their families, he reported.
“It’s all in the book,” he said. “We don’t run out of bizarres here.”
The first 75 pages of the book can be read on the publishing company’s Web site, www.marquettebooks.com. The book can also be purchased for $29.95 at www.barnesandnoble.com.
Amy Joles is the editor of the Tuscola County Advertiser. She can be reached at joles@tcadvertiser.com.
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May 18, 2009
9:49 a.m.Report inappropriate content
Rest in Peace Robin
May 18, 2009
7:21 p.m.Report inappropriate content
It's a shame that someone so young was taken so violently. I knew the victim; she rode my school bus. However, she wasn't exactly a "nice" person. She had problems and anger issues and she used to take it out on us younger kids. She slapped one of my sisters in the face. But still, it's too bad that she was killed when her life was just starting out. I didn't wish death on her and I'm saddened by these events. We all hope that someone who has had a hard childhood would rise above all of the misery and make something out of themselves, but unfortunately, Robin didn't have the chance. I hope that now her family has found closure and that this troubled young woman has found peace at last.
May 27, 2009
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for you to say robin was not a nice person when she so called slaped your sister .i am sure there was more to it . i dont know who you are but maybe you grew up to think you can judge anyone you would like because of a slap. i know robin and when she was being beatup may be you would have anger issues to. May be not. It was not her fault that all this happened But Tell YourSELF AND YOUR SISTERS THAT if she could have lived she would have maded it right with you girls . SHE WAS A NICE PERSON you didnt realy know her
May 27, 2009
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I'm sure Robin would have set everything right in due time, but I can only call 'em as I see 'em. My sister did nothing to invoke Robin's anger; Robin was just that way. I say this out of experience, because I SAW all of this happen when it occurred! I have a friend who has been abused as a child: her stepfather had sexually abused her and her mother was a drunk, but she rose above all of that and made a nice stable home for her children to grow up in. In fact, her eldest graduated within the top ten of her class last year. But she never took her anger out on anybody like Robin did. Robin took her anger out on others that could not defend themselves. No, I did not really know her, and by the way she acted, I DIDN'T want to know her. But I'm sure she would have made a good life for herself if she had had a chance. And as you say, she probably would have made it right with my sister.
Did I ever mentioned that this was Robin's fault? No I didn't. And no, I didn't grow up to think I can judge anybody with just a slap in the face; I judge people by their ACTIONS. Were you there when this happened? If you were, then how come you didn't stop her? The fact is, nobody could.
May 27, 2009
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PeggyYax: Your comment about Robin's anger issues and the slap was inappropriate. You are talking about something that happened on a school bus - when everyone involved was a child! Last I knew no one involved was still in high school. I rode a school bus to school also - I got hit and I did some hitting. Glad most of us grew up - I think we're all friends now actually! Saying "it's a shame, it's too bad, Robin didn't have the chance" shows no sympathy on your part when you throw in the trash talk. That's like saying you're sorry followed by a "but." If you weren't passing judgment you wouldn't have brought it up. You are right, some children who had rough upbringings take the high road, some don't. My ex-husband had such an upbringing. Three boys - one became a priest, another a drug addict and the third just a darn good father. Each individual handles things differently, sometimes it's choice, sometimes it's personality and inner strength. Anyway, Billy Timko (may he also rest in peace) was one of my best friends all through high school. This family has been through more than any one family should have had to endure. I have read the first 75 pages of the book and am ordering my own copy. Glad to see the entire story put to print. It has made me remember some special people whose lives were taken way to soon. May they rest in peace.
May 28, 2009
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Speaking ill about someone who is not here to defend herself is just plain wrong.
May 28, 2009
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Peggyyax Read the whole book then you can figure out where I was at . Maybe if it was such A BAD AND SCARING thing for you, maybe you should have reported her BUT you were so defenceless KID STUFF
May 29, 2009
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Hey Dadams, are you Robin's brother?
May 30, 2009
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Danny Adams is brother to Robin. Read the book and cry for those two kids upbringing.
May 30, 2009
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Coolblue yes I am robins brother
May 30, 2009
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I have read the first 75 pages online. I graduated in 1975 and I remember very well everything that happened back in 1976. I personally know most all of the characters involved in the story. One of my close friends also lived across the street from the house where it all happened. And I have another friend who dated Robin for awhile.
I was then and I still am so sorry for your loss Danny. She was a beautiful sister.
May 30, 2009
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My family is in the book. My father Franklin Kish, brother, niece and Grandmother have all passed away. However I do not feel there was anything sinister behind any of their passings.
May 30, 2009
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It is a good book. I just finished it.
May 31, 2009
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peggyyax: I find it in total disregard for my older sisters memory, that you could even make a statement like that..For Gods sake, she was only a kid, have you ever thought back to your teenage years? im sure everyone can think of at least one thing for which they have regret..Robin never had the chance to "rise above it all" she never had the chance to "make a nice stable home for her children" our children never had the chance to know their Aunt...we never had the chance to do the things that most people take for granted..
you have no idea of what she went through...I would never speak of someone who is no longer here in such a way...
and yes , closure would be our goal, if only things like this didnt hamper the effort.....
May 31, 2009
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I would like to point out a mistake in the book. My niece that passed away and left behind her beautiful twins was Amy Kish Monreal. Dawn is very much alive living in New Mexico with the twins.
May 31, 2009
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to all> i know somethings were off a bit But we all must remember we are not 70 years old . I thank all that have a conection to this . There was a lot for the auther to sort out . May the story be told & may help for others come from the story may pease be with the auther for giving A sh-t Along to any person that can learn from the murder of robin
June 5, 2009
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The author may be 70 years old but that does not excuse him for not getting all of his facts straight before publishing this book. This book brings back a lot of memories to the families that were invovled, most of the memories painful and i believe that the facts should have been straight.
I just want you to see a quote that the author stated: “But it’s accurate,” he said.
And it's not!
June 5, 2009
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wow you people seem to have a lot to say you have no idea what went on robin was the most beautiful person that i ever had the pleasure to know if you have a question about anything please ask in a decent way instead of being inconsiderate kris
June 6, 2009
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This book is not just about your sister! It is also about other families TOO and they have a right to speak out just as much as you do so quit criticizing them about their OPINION on the book. Got it!!!
June 6, 2009
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I'm confused. If it wasn't for this poor girls tragic death there wouldn't even be a book. May you rest in peace Robin.
June 6, 2009
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We do understand the pain you have gone through with what has happened with Robin. Yes we may have not known her but I am sure she was a good person and I understand how you feel because she is your sister. I think what we want people to understand is that we also had beautiful people in our family that we have lost tragically. I know you think about her everyday like we think about the people we have lost. Yes we understand that this book is about Robin’s story and it hurts my heart to think someone could do this to another person. For me it may be hard to understand how our family feels about the medium stating “black magic” was a factor for the people we have lost in our family. That is a hard thing to take when we loved these people with all our hearts and felt that God was ready to call them home. It’s not an easy thing to take lightly. I miss all them dearly. Like they say in the book there is no way to link the two but to see family members portrayed in that aspect is like a stab in the heart. You family has suffered tragedy as well as ours. My grandpa died of a massive heart attack- he was a good man. My uncle Frank was in a terrible car accident that left him paralyzed for almost seven years- could you even imagine how that affected our family? My cousin Amy died in a tragic four-wheel accident that decapitated her instantly…for that information to be wrong in the book wrenches on the heart. Dawn her mother is well and alive in New Mexico. It is hard to explain but for the author to say that is accurate is kind of offensive when we as their family know the true story. It may be hard for you to understand but just put yourself in our shoes as well as us thinking about your sister. I think anyone who has gone through tragedies in their life to have them published and have to relive them is hard. It causes your family and ours to think about it even more. There are so many things in life that are unexpected. Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying what happened to Robin was right and in my heart I feel terrible, just please understand other families are involved and feelings have been hurt. One day we will understand why God has done what he has done when he calls us home. I truly believe there was nothing behind their deaths. I can’t imagine the pain your family has gone through and you maybe you don’t understand the pain our family has gone through, but I believe in my heart those who have passed are with God and he is taking care of them and one day we will see them again in glory. I know its something that we don’t want to think about but God has a plan for us. The comments may come has offensive but when upset it may come in that way without understanding the pain our family as well as yours is feeling.
June 6, 2009
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I also like this bible verse: This is not ment to offend anyone but for me to have a sense of comfort for the people I have lost in my family:
I like this quote from the bible:
The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil. Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.
Isaiah 57:1-2
June 6, 2009
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AMEN
June 6, 2009
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May you also understand that no one understands the grim reaper idea more than myself . I did not see or know about the black magic. this hurts alot more than our family . I did not write the book nor did we choose what would be said .. I am so sorry that things were put in print that would do anything other than keep Robins exsistance alive. may god give us all strengh to understand that closer comes when they close the casket & comit us to the ground . thank you for your thoughts
June 6, 2009
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Thanks for understanding..may god bless and keep you always.
June 7, 2009
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AMEN!!! May we all live in peace......
June 9, 2009
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I'd like to know more about the tim richards and lee kitchen, "suicide?" with vincent. Is that a relation to luke kitchen and jake? They are about my age.
June 9, 2009
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I dont know / But you may want to ask kris She will maybe helpfil /
June 10, 2009
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The author has Lee Jae's name right, but the other guy's name isn't actually Tim Richards...he's a Timko, used to be called by the nickname "Roach". I know him but I won't put his real first name up on here. I and his x-wife went to school together, were best friends, and I even lived with them for a while. It's not true about her and Aubrey being intimate together. And Luke is a son to Lee Jae, I'm not sure about Jake. I think the author "based" the story on the murder in Caro, but it is not 100% acurate. The name he used at the beginning of the story for Mike Clark isn't correct either. Maybe because he didn't have legal permission from the families of the people involved.
June 11, 2009
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Names were not all right as far as I was told. Some things had to be changed for the same reason you thought. I remember the roach coach it was cool . And roach was A good guy in my thoughts he treated me as if I was family . I have nothing but good thoughts about him
June 11, 2009
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The name of Frank Kish Jr.'s daughter, Amy, was incorrect in my book, "Murder in the Thumb." I sincerely regret this error and it will be corrected in future copies. A few names were deliberately changed to protect the privacy of the individuals or their families. If that makes the book "inaccurate" in the eyes of some readers, I can live with that.
June 11, 2009
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ITS stil A GOOD read God bless you DICK
June 11, 2009
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It is very clear to anyone who reads the book, how much time and dedication was spent over many years....this was not completed on a whim ..it was part of Mr Carson's every day existance..This was not just another "assignment"for him, he truly cares.....I now feel as though I have a much clearer picture of the tragedy surrounding my sister's death,and the events after..There are bound to be some type of error in something so involved....Thank You Dick..For getting Robin's story out there....
June 12, 2009
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I grew up in Caro and was 16 when Robin was killed. the book was sort of creepy for me since I went to pretty much all the local parties back then and distinctly remember drinking beer alongside Melvin standing at the bonfire. It bothers me that I stood that close to a friggin' cold blooded murderer. At the time all I knew was he was the older guy with an awesome car.
This story needs to be made into a movie.
Mr Carson, if you're following this forum have you ever considered contacting anyone concerning this idea?
My only complaint regarding the book was the parts during the pre trial hearing with the banter between the so called experts regarding whether there should have been an autopsy or not. I thought for the sake of good reading that could have been abrieviated. Other than that I could not put the book down and read it in two sittings.
June 16, 2009
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maybe the detective could reopen the aubrey "suicide" incident!
June 20, 2009
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My copy was in the mailbox when I got home Thursday night. I have made it half-way through in one day! I'm to the court stuff, which I absolutely love.
June 24, 2009
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We all need to keep Robyn and her family in our hearts, but let us not forget the accused's family either. They also lost a loved one. This is just a tragedy.
June 24, 2009
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Guess We do feel bad for the family of the murderer not the accused. He did do it there is no question about it other wise we would not have found her . Some people could not live with this nor could I . i know the family worked hard to make it in life but that in it self does not excuss someone taking some ones life . The reason she was found was because someone could not live with the thought of knowing . Who could I feel bad for the one who had to be part of this but also thank that person. We know who we are talking about.
June 24, 2009
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I say accused because only God, Robyn, & ? know what really happened. Second of all the young lady did not lead the detectives to the body. If the book was read correctly, one would see that.
I understand your hurt, but I just feel that both families lost a great deal i.e. a child, a sister, a brother, even a parent.
June 24, 2009
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If I am ansering to I think I am I Did guess . But I can understand why you got invoved . I did not get my info by some fuc////book you know where I got it . I want to talk to you personaly . If you can handle it. I need to know. Please give me that chance
June 24, 2009
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It was not the Grave but it was dame close . Thank you Mr Miller
June 25, 2009
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Sir, I don't know who you think I am but I know I am not who you think I am. I am just recovering from losing a close relative in a drunk driving accident. I was just trying to be open minded and remind everyone that when someone dies or is incarcerated, nobody wins and its the families involved that suffer.
June 25, 2009
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Guess .I am sorry for your lose . I can tell you I understand the lose. I know alot of people that have losed someone. I would lke to tell you Closer is hard to find . As long as we walk this wonderful life. We must remember our people in our lives when they lose theres. The good the bad . I thought that it was right to defend our love ones , and to be carefull of others involved & there familys, We can not talk to them if there dead but the ones that did get involved can say they love them ,Un like the unknowen of death. May god give you the tools you need to get through.
June 26, 2009
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spell checker would have been handy on those last entrys L.O.L
June 27, 2009
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Im confused as to why the Aubry Vincent suicide is relivent to this story. He had a dark side and anyone who knew him can contest to that. He was invited on that hunting trip in the U.P. as a good faith gesture by "one of the three" who were present at the time of his suicide. My father happens to be one of them and that incident will be with him forever. If there was foul play I am certian my father wouldn't have tried to save his life in vain. R.I.P Robyn, Jungle Jimmy, Anna Belle, Billy Jr.... We live and love in a small community that is deeply effected by our loved ones passing no matter what the circumstances may be or however tragic.
June 29, 2009
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Daddams, I am very sorry for your loss of your sister.
To the nutcases, I am a recent unwilling and unwitting player in the list of characters in this story. Thanks to the writings of Mr Carson and the editing of Marquette publishing, I now have NUT CASES pulling in my driveway and driving slowly by my home to get a look at the spooky old possessed house I live in! Frankly my family is scared #$%^less about these unexpected visits by strangers! Yes I own the old Timko farm. For the inquiring minds that want to know, NO the house is not haunted! I have heard the scratching (its mice). I replaced the stairs going to the upstairs bedroom as they were weak and creaky. They were also attached (nailed) to the adjoining wall (which as any carpenter knows) will cause squeeking even if you only walk near the stairway. And as far as the noises in the attic! The attic floor joists were not full joists. They were sistered in the middle and were only constructed of 2X6's covering a 14' spanse. There is no longer an attic off the upstairs bedroom. It is now a cathedral ceiling in the downstairs dining room. And as for the door to the attic (the one the preacher jerked open), It's long gone too! Replaced by drywall when I put in the cathedral ceiling. I have been in this house since the mid 90's and have never seen any aberrations. In closing, to you nut cases, if you want a real thrill, They are putting in a new bridge on chambers. Maybe you can go sift through the sand and find the ouija board the preacher pitched into the river. Good Luck! Stay home, don't visit, your not welcome here!
June 29, 2009
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befuddled: Oh I would be so annoyed. People don't think.
June 29, 2009
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Ok, I just read the book and I don't know any of the people in it, but I just had to say to befuddled; why are you so angry that people are driving past your house? You need to relax a little bit and stop to think about why they are driving past. Can't you just be understanding of the families and the other local people that are showing an interest in this book, and what has happened in the past. I do feel bad for the families and like I said, I didn't know any of them, but I wish you all the best and remember that we will all be together again someday.
June 30, 2009
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In Regard to Befuddled-----Quit driving by their house you nut cases! You would not like it if you were in their position. Especially if there are children there, why would you want to put them in that position. Think about how they feel? No child should be scared in their own home!!! Call the police when someone does because that is harrassment!!!! Take license plate numbers too!! Just like they said YOU ARE NOT WELCOME!!!!!!! LEAVE THEM ALONE!!!
June 30, 2009
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I have not gone past the house but when I returned from PA in 1978 I move into the house for A while . I did not ever have any thoughts of spooky things . I had memories . but the family still owns land and A house close to there as you well know. Robin was not murdered there so i dont know why people come around there. I heard the trailer is for sale. I hope you are not implying I am A nut case the house was sold to you and it is your property to protect. So I would do what you need to do to keep people off your property. I have no reason to come around there . It was built along time ago and I remember the the steps. Also I remember it was heated by wood. No humitifer if I remember right . As A carpenter my self I know wood drys out. People should leave you family alone and let you folks live in peace.
June 30, 2009
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Thank you for understanding Dadams, Sparkle600 and Ruralgirl.
To Dadams: No my friend I wasn't at all refering to you as a nutcase. In fact you and your family are welcome in my home anytime. As is Millie's family. Millie has always been good to me. With the exception of not telling me before I bought the house, about the exorcism that took place here.
Our main fear is not the local people nesessarily.
Anyone who lived through or was part of the tragedy of Robin's passing already knows where the house is. My biggest problem is the author published my full address twice in his book. Maybe more, I don't know as I have only read the portion of the book that is online. Publishing my address in the book was totally uncalled for and unnessasary. I'm sure the address is a matter of public record. So anyone wanting to see the mentioned properties badly enough, could have searched the court records for themselves.
Yes I'm well aware the family still lives nearby and for thier sake I hope and pray the author didn't put thier address's in the book as well.
With a stroke of the pen, our privacy, security and peace of mind all vanished. I wouldn't wish that on anybody! I do intend to contact the author and publisher in an effort to have my address removed from any further printings of the book and also to have it removed from the online pages.
I can't even fathom what you have been through. I truly hope the book has done some good. Tomorrow is another day and Im sure the sun will shine again.
Thank you Sparkle600. I couldn't have said it better myself. We are taking measures as you suggested and more.
July 1, 2009
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befuddled, Thank you for welcome . I dont often come to caro . I was thinking about it earler in the spring . There was a spot I remembered when I was A kid that had alot of mushrums. But the bridge was out. I thought your coment about the board in the river was funny. I do understand that the sun does shine again . I believe that God has the abllity to help us know that.May he protect you & your family.
July 2, 2009
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Wow sounds like a scary book, y'all!
July 5, 2009
8:31 p.m.Report inappropriate content
To befuddled: C'mon man - this is America!!
Turn a bad thing into a good thing by putting a sign out in front of your house and offering tours.
$10 a head or $20 per carload.
You keep half and give the other half to a memorial fund for Robin Adams.
July 6, 2009
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I don't want to add fuel to this stupid fire, but I also knew Robin, and if you read Peggtyax's comment, you could see that she felt sad that she is gone, jsut because she she basically told how Robin was then, and to be honest I also knew Robin, I also think that it is sad what happened to her, but that dosen't change how she was in life, and I am in NO WAY bashing anyone, espicially people that are not with us anymore, but Robin felt as if people should have got on their knees and kissed her feet, she thought she was the greatest thing, and dis. she may be your sister and you may not want to hear it, but she was a mean girl, noone is saying that they are glad shes gone, because noone is, we are just stating a fact, so if you cannot handle that, maybe you just shouldn't read this eh? so to PeggyYax, I agree with what you said so don't argue with these people. they most likely are either family or real close friends of Robin's that think she could do nothing wrong, so no worries
July 7, 2009
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Give it A break . She was 17 not older say what you want it is your right . Freedom of speach thank your for fathers for that. I am she someone can come up with something to bring them down to . Have FUN with all your down grading of others what goes around comes around Did she ask you to kiss her feet . I am sure she did not but maybe you felt that way. Unless your god how can you say how she felt. She was in caro for about two years. she is DEAD leave her alone. Get on with life as others have to . You only get one chance . It is ok to be bitter but life Does not always have to be about cutting down people. But again I can handle ANYTHING you or anyone else can through out on the internet. I am alive and I can respond. And I will protect the rights of my familys free speach. so Have A good day and MAY GOD BLESS YOU FOR YOUR COMMENTS.